Lack of attention to women's happiness
In many heterosexual hookup apps, the focus is on the male climax, and when he climaxes, the hookup is over. A study of college students found that 80% of men can reach orgasm when hooking up, while only 40% of women can achieve it. In contrast, 75% of women can reach love climax in their sexual lives with their significant other.
This is a considerable gap, but it does not mean that in order to get the happiness we want, we must all commit to serious relationships.
In the case of hookup, women may feel uncomfortable because they do not know each other. But whether you know a friend finder for a few years or a few minutes, honestly speaking, your sexual desire is always okay.
However, when it comes to sexual topics, it needs at least two people. Even when women ask what they want, their male hookup partners may not always be kind enough to care. If you don't care enough about your partner and make him happy, maybe you shouldn't make love with others.
If your other half is not concerned enough about you or too lazy to ask what you want, or not sure if you are having fun, then maybe it is time to find another partner. Casual doesn't necessarily mean careless or boring.
Men are expected to comply with unrealistic and toxic standards
What do I mean by unrealistic and harmful standards? Let us start with the fact that men, whether straight men or queers, always want a lot of random sexual encounters.
Men who are asexual, have low sexual desire, prefer sexual activity in a fixed relationship, or are shy and do not take the initiative to be sexually active, are considered to be less masculine and often find themselves being laughed at by other men, sometimes by women.
Orgasm of a woman is considered “complex” and difficult to achieve, while the male is considered as “easy to please” and can easily reach orgasm in an accidental hookup. At the same time, they should not reach their climax too quickly, otherwise they will be considered as inexperienced and uncontrollable.
If you are dealing with men, remember that their needs and desires are as diverse as those of other genders. Some men may not be interested in casual sexual encounters, but this does not make them less masculine. Some people may have difficulty reaching their climax and may need a special game or stimuli to reach it.
When you meet a man who breaks your expectations of a man should in a hookup, he is friendly and sincerely curious, not ridiculous. If it turns out that you and he are not in sync with lovemaking, then speak up honestly and directly, don't belittle him in a gender-discriminatory way.